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Understand your anger

Anger is the memory of being hurt. Being angry is just proof that you

didn’t complete the job of expressing your hurt when it first occurred.

You’re responsible for speaking your feelings, but expressing anger is

always a problem. It’s hard to express anger without hurting someone

else. The best way to express anger is to show you are hurt.

To resolve your anger, first posses you’re hurt. It’s hard to admit that

you’ve been hurt when you try to portray yourself as invincible or

above it all.

If you push away your feelings to protect yourself. You become less,

less connected to your best. Even if you conceal your pain. You still

hurt and angry. You become sensitive to hurt and seem irritable with

others. Your hidden feelings speak indirectly. Protecting another per-

son from your hurt and angry feelings is just another way of alienating

them. The longer you protect them, the more alienated you will feel.

After a while you won’t feel joy in right places and when others ask

what is wrong, you won’t even be able to tell them. It will seem like

such a complicated old story.

People who hurt and then prevent you from expressing that hurt dam-

age you the most.

Anyone who can bottle up your anger can control you; you need to be

free of danger to love.

When love is coated with anger it doesn’t feel like love, it still feels like

anger. Express your hurt at the correct time and place and you’ll al-

ways be free to love.

My hurt is on my lips.

My love will follow.

-Tikam Sharma

11 Science