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Editor’s Letter

We already know that positive self- believe in you, but also follow an
belief is the crucial ingredient that attitude of positivity and endless
makes successful people successful— possibilities in their own lives. This bit
literally every corporate doyen and self- about the right attitude is absolutely
help author has spoken about it. That critical: according to several studies, we
inner conviction, a winning spirit, the automatically imitate and match the
mindset that you can do and achieve behaviours of those around us (which is
anything. What we often do not know, why you’ll often find yourself feeling sad
however, is how to get to that stage of around pessimistic people).
unfaltering faith in our own potential Finally, change the way you speak to
and abilities. Especially if we have yourself: the words you use have a
grown up around people who have scientifically-proven impact on your
instilled fear or doubt in our minds. perceptions and reality. Don’t call
But a new set of habits—empowering yourself an idiot. Don’t tell yourself
ones—can change all that. you’re not good enough. Instead, remind
First, adopt the kind of habits that yourself of all the wonderful things you
boost confidence. And practice them have achieved in the past, and the goals
every single day. I want you to set daily, you are meeting every day. And while
mini goals for yourself and really you’re at it, spend some time evaluating
commit to them. These goals could be what you’ve been feeding your mind.
an hour at the gym, getting to work at The books you read, the Netflix shows
9am or reading 20 pages of a book. With you watch, the Instagram accounts you
WELCOME TO 2020! every petite achievement, you’ll change follow...are they sending out empowering
It’s likely that you have already your perception of you—and start or disempowering messages?
established some work/weight/life seeing yourself as someone with both In the end, self-belief largely depends
resolutions for yourself. motivation and will power. on how you see yourself, what you feed
But my wish for you, at the dawn of a Next, review the people you spend your mind, and the small-but-crucial
new decade, is this: in 2020—and the most time with. And dethrone any things you do daily. And every little memo
beyond—I hope you truly, naysayers. That could mean a friend that your brain receives can push you
unequivocally believe in yourself. from college who still sees you as a closer or further away from your goals.
See, I know you have all these amazing blundering teenager or an uncle who I hope your sky has no limit!
ideas. I know you have lofty dreams that frequently proclaims that ‘startups are Until next month,
fill you with both excitement and too risky’. (Bear in mind that one of
trepidation. Maybe it’s a promising these cynics might also be your own
business venture; perhaps it’s the job critical inner voice.) Replace all the
you’ve always wanted; or it could be your skeptics with your personal ‘inspiration
idea of the perfect life. Whatever your posse’. Women who have beaten the
‘fire in the belly’ is, here’s what I know odds, entrepreneurs who made their Nandini Bhalla,
for certain: the only way you’ll make dreams happen despite the odds, and Editor
those ideas and dreams a reality, is by high performance individuals. Surround nandini.bhalla@intoday.com
having unshakeable faith in yourself. yourself with people who not only Follow me on Instagram: nandinibhalla

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