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Dating Dilemmas
Dating Dilemmas

WHAT TO DO

You had an amazing summer, for the most part: WHEN THINGS GET,
Epic camping trips with your besties! A new WELL, WEIRD
personal record in the mile! That one magical
week when you and your brother got along!
But for all of the good, there might have been
some not-so-great moments...especially in the
relationship realm. You know: super awkward
first dates, ugly breakups and the realization
that everyone in your crew is coupled up…
except you. Now that school’s starting (and you
can’t just hide in a pool cabana), it’s time to
face those #thatfeelingwhen sitches.

BY SYDNEY ADAMSON
AND SARAH WASSNER FLYNN

#thatfeelingwhen...YOU HAD
A FEW FAB DATES WITH YOUR
LONGTIME CRUSH, WHO THEN when it feels appropriate. Test
PROMPTLY GHOSTED YOU. NOW
THEY ARE IN THREE OF YOUR mistake or maybe they won’t. the waters with a catch-up over grab some brunch and see where
CLASSES, SO YOU HAVE TO SEE Either way, you come out as the smoothies and go from there.
THEM EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. bigger—and better—person. #thatfeelingwhen...YOU COOLED this goes.” Just be sure to do
this in person—not over text—so
DEAL WITH IT: Sure, it seems THINGS OFF WITH YOUR BAE, they know your feelings are the
super twisted that your schedule #thatfeelingwhen...YOU DATED BUT NOW YOU REALIZE YOU real deal. And whatever their
is synched up with the person YOUR BESTIE FOR A FEW MADE THE WRONG CALL. response? Respect it and either
who basically broke your heart. WEEKS—AND IT ENDED BADLY. BECAUSE WHILE IT *SEEMED* move forward or move on.
But think of it like this: It’s the SUDDENLY, YOUR SHOULDER LIKE A GOOD IDEA NOT TO HAVE
surefire way to get over it all TO CRY ON IS THE ONE YOU’RE THE PRESSURE ON BOTH OF #thatfeelingwhen...YOU AND
for good. How? Maybe you were CRYING OVER. YOU TO KEEP IN TOUCH WHILE BAE BROKE UP, BUT NOW THAT
so charmed by the idea of your DEAL WITH IT: You can’t even go YOU SPENT SUMMER SEPAR- SCHOOL IS STARTING, YOU SEE
crush, you ignored some of their to your locker without tearing ATELY, NOW YOU JUST WANT THEM EVERYWHERE. EVEN
THEM BACK IN YOUR LIFE.
not-so-cute qualities (like the up over the fact that your bestie WORSE THAN CHANCE HALL
way they criticize classmates won’t be meeting you in between DEAL WITH IT: Spoiler alert: ENCOUNTERS? YOU’RE STILL
any chance they get). Now that classes. You miss them being Feelings don’t go away overnight. CO-CHAIRS OF STEM CLUB,
you’re breathing the same air for there, but you both said bad So if you’re still thinking about SO YOU’LL BE WORKING
hours a day, some of that may things and you’re still reeling. them, chances are they are, too. CLOSELY TOGETHER ALL YEAR.
seem much more obvious. The Your best bet? Invest time in your While it’s tough to ’fess up to MAJOR UGH.
bottom line? In class, pay atten- extracurrics, your schoolwork, your faults, this is the time to DEAL WITH IT: Whether you
tion to your teacher—and not to your fam and other friends (or do so. Ask if they can meet you ended things on good terms or
your crush. Smile and laugh and make it your mission to seek out after school and simply say, “I bad, seeing your ex all the time
answer questions with confi- new ones). If you find yourself know I hurt your feelings, and I’m is not ideal. And while there’s
dence. Maybe they’ll realize their missing the friendship, reach out sorry. I do like you, and I’d love to no rule saying you have to stay

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