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my heaviness as a 6. Right now, I of our births, don’t you think? As for reli- him for a long time, then lost touch
sleep in pads though it’s incredibly gion, it’s ideal to learn from each other’s and she started to like him. Now we
uncomfortable. Should I start wear- beliefs and values and traditions but, in all talk and text. She and I openly
ing tampons? Or am I too young? the big picture and the long run, being on talk to each other about liking him,
the same page about such major matters assuming he won’t like either of us
Dear Tweenage Troubles, does make a difference, especially if you back—but now I am starting to worry
I don’t think you’re too young for tam- intertwine your life with someone else’s. about what happens if he starts to
pons, but there’s also no rush. Tampons The important question now is whether like one of us? If he liked her back, I’d
come in light, regular and super absor- this boy is noticing how special you are. If become closer friends with him, and
bencies, and pads and liners also come in he is, great. If not, yank out Cupid’s arrow I’d honestly be OK with that. But if
thin and thicker sizes with and without and you’ll see that there are plenty of he likes me back, I don’t know what
wings. Pads may feel bulky or unwieldy other guys out there. she’d do. We can’t just ask him who
at first, but keep trying different kinds he likes because it’s awkward and we
because they should not feel “incredibly MY LIFE IS A CLICHÉ would lose him as a friend. Basically,
uncomfortable.” Even when you do switch One of my best friends and I like the one, how do we find out who he likes?
to tampons, it’s smart to have pads on same guy. We’re 14 and he’s 15, and And two, if he likes me, how do I keep
hand because your period will vary. It may we go to different schools. I liked from ruining my friendship with her?
be lighter on one day, heavier the next.
You’ll figure this out—we all do!

I LIKE A PLAYER
I need a little help from someone
more professional than my friends.
I am 15 and have fallen for a guy
whom people call a “player.” He is
perfect and, in my opinion, every-
thing about him seems so amazing
except for that “player” label (and
possibly the fact that he is a devout
Christian—not that I have any-
thing against it, it’s just that he isn’t
open to other religions). He’s actually
not very experienced, but flirts with
every girl he lays eyes on. I know
that’s bad news, but he really struck
some type of chord with me—and I
cannot seem to get him off my mind.
I looked into zodiac signs. Appar- JUDGY
ently, our signs make amazing cou- One of my best friends is very judgmental. We always argue about
ples and long-lasting relationships! why I do certain things. I try not to argue back, but it doesn’t work,
Anyway, do you think it’s a good idea and I end up annoyed. Then later, we will get along like nothing
to continue on this route? Or should I happened. Otherwise, she’s amazing—and I don’t want to lose her.
be worried about his reputation?
Dear Judgy,
Dear I Like a Player, Here’s what not to say: “You’re so judgmental, and I’m sick of it!” Here’s
Many reputations are based on pure what you can say: “I may be oversensitive, but sometimes I feel like you
gossip, so that’s not my main concern. criticize me a lot. I really value our friendship, and it makes me feel bad
And it’s normal and fun to have a crush, when you make harsh comments about my choices.” Keep reaching out to
so why not enjoy those feelings? But hold others, too. It’s important to have friends who cheer you on rather than
onto your head and keep getting to know
ASISEEIT/GETTY IMAGES him rather than imagining he’s perfect for drag you down. You’ll find them.
you now and forever. As for the zodiac, a
lot goes into who we are besides the date

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