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relationship
wellness

True Essence Of

Positive Parent

Child Relationships

ositive parent child relationships 3. How you treat children is how they learn within the child right from early infancy.
provide the foundation for to treat themselves: you are your child’s 9. Avoid “Helicoptering” and encourage
children’s learning of fundamental inner voice; always speak with love, independence. This fosters a sense of
skills for survival and interaction compassion and kindness even when increasing self worth and confidence
Pwith different environments. they are being difficult to deal with.
With the parents’ sensitive, responsive 4. Redirect: give attention to the behavior 10. Create a safe space to let the child
and predictable care, young children you like not the behavior you don’t. So express his emotions. Never shame or
develop the skills they need throughout instead of telling the child what not to humiliate the child for expressing anger,
their lifespan; namely social, emotional , do focus on redirecting them towards frustration or guilt. Acknowledge the
cognitive and motivational skills. feelings and provide emotional and
the desired behavior.
Positive parent child relationships have 5. Strive towards positive honesty: avoid rational support. Overly controlling and
oppressive environments can lead to
positive effects on children’s emotional well creeping out of difficult situations with low self esteem, passive aggression and
being, their basic coping and problem solving a lie. Instead offer your child a rational poor decision making skills.
abilities and future capacity for relationships. explanation and then set appropriate limits.
Children also learn to manage emotions and by Mahek Uttamchandani
behaviors and establish healthy relationships 6. Teach Empathy and Kindness: model
with adults and peers. They learn how to adjust empath and kindness. Kids gain a sense
to new situations and to resolve conflicts. of self worth by volunteering in the
community for instance.
How to use mindful parenting to build
positive parent child relationships: 7. Celebrate your child for what she or he
is: Avoid comparisons and love them
1. Peaceful parenting starts with ones own unconditionally
ability to emotionally regulate: stay calm
even in times of crisis; never do anything 8. Shower your kid with your full presence:
in front of the child you do not want Make your child feel heard and seen. Put
them to do including yelling!! Be the role down those mobile phones! turn down
model for your child. the TVs and radios when your children
are trying to engage with you. Avoid
2. Set limits but with empathy: when kids replacing your quality time with material
feel understood they are better able to things and gifts. Attunement and
accept limits.
attachment establish a sense of security

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