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How can my partner
and I bring sexy back My friend told me
when it’s just easier Umm, I keep thinking about this new trick
to, like, watch TV in
about other people she does with her
our sweats?
when my fiancé and mouth when she’s
Unfortch, this is pretty I are having sex. going down on her
much how human Please tell me that’s BF. Will mine think a different technique
nature works. “Once normal.... I’m crazy if I try it on and respond with
you become accus- him out of nowhere? something like, “Holy
Trust, everyone’s mind shit, that feels so
tomed to someone, wanders during sex. Quite the opposite,
your mind shifts from good. Where did you
It’s a big reason some bb. (And let me guess, learn it?” (Go ahead
passionate to com-
women find it hard is the trick to knead and respond with a
panionate feelings,” to orgasm—they’re the underside of his
explains Boodram. sexy, knowing smirk.)
too busy thinking penis, where the head If, though, you can’t
But this doesn’t have
about a million other meets the shaft, with tell if he’s into it, “you
to be your only narra-
things, like work and the tip of your tongue? can always check in
tive. You just need to more work and... Then you should try it.)
be a lil ~extra~ about with a simple, ‘Do you
but I digress. At least As long as this exotic like this?’” suggests
getting back into
your focus is on stuff mouth move won’t hurt O’Reilly. If the answer
hooking up. Meaning: or, ahem, people him, he’ll probably
Start treating sex like is no, move on to
who make you horny, think you’re a GD sex your tried-and-true
going to the gym or
which helps you keep As long as this exotic mouth move won’t hurt him, he’ll think you’re a GD sex goddess. goddess for testing out licks—and, hey, at
practicing the guitar. your arousal at peak
Seriously. “Resist the least you tried.
levels. There is def no
urge to quit, keep at it,
need to read too much
and stop waiting for into this. Plus, “monog-
lust to just happen,”
amy can be toxic if
says Boodram.
you make it too rigid,”
says relationship
expert Jess O’Reilly,
My partner is like, PhD, Astroglide’s
“No way” to video- resident sexologist.
chat sex, but I’m so “Focus on fulfillment
into it! Any tips to get instead of what you’re
them on board? supposed to do.”
Your thoughts are sim-
When it comes to try- ply fueling the fire
ing out a new fantasy, between you two.
you have to give your
S.O. the time and
space to warm up to
it. As Boodram says,
“Video-chatting may My wife says she can
just not be their entry orgasm only with
point into voyeurism What should I do if a vibrator, and honestly, Do vaginas really
or mutual masturba- my girlfriend always that bugs me....Help? get stretched out after
tion.” Which, fair. A cries after sex? Why does it bug you having a baby?
N
So be willing to take Be ready with comfort though? You’re not in They stretch, but they
N and tissues. Sex unleashes competition with it. You’ll don’t get stretched out (so
baby steps that they’d A W a bunch of hormones probably feel better if let’s end that hurtful
be more comfortable W O that can sometimes you start treating her rumor RTFN!). The muscles
with (maybe phone S N trigger an emo reaction. buzzing, seven-speed and tissues in the
sex or a VR-sex chat E K The technical term is dildo as a helpful vaginal canal and vulva
D “postcoital dysphoria,” ally. Invite it into your are designed to expand
room?). Then, make U and it’s really NBD, even next session and by up to four inches
sure you’re both loving D when it happens often. ask your wife to show you during labor and birth.
If she’s at all concerned, how it gets her off. Then, A few months later, they
experimenting before offer to help her find a sex use that (super-hot) intel to should be back to their
~testing~ further. therapist to talk to. your advantage. usual, pre-baby size.

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