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love & lust

WHY GETTING

DEPRESSED AFTER

YOUR WEDDING

IS A THING

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes...a tonne

of ugly crying? By Annie Daly

A with my mom and my wedding therapist Diana Kirschner, author of
couple of weeks after
planner, and then it was just...over. I
Love In 90 Days. “That high can be
Aahana* got back from her
honeymoon, she called her
all the excitement. It felt like a
mom in tears. She had just had the felt bored and nostalgic and missed so intense that when your wedding
ends, it can cause a giant and
most amazing destination wedding whole fun phase of my life had unexpected emotional crash.” That
in Udaipur, followed by a beachy just ended.” sudden bummed-out mood can also
week of bliss in Bali. She thought TBH, this kind of ‘wedding make you feel guilty, like you’re an
she’d be ecstatic. Instead, she felt comedown’ isn’t rare. In a 2018 ungrateful monster for not being
depressed. study of 152 women, 12 percent a 100 percent psyched about your
“It was surprisingly hard to settle reported feeling depressed after wonderful celebration, and—oh
back into normalcy after being they tied the knot. yeah—your new spouse. (Pause that
on such a high for so long,” the “The whole process of getting spiral, girl. It’s gonna be okay.)
33-year-old recalls. “There had married can be one of the biggest Understanding why this slump Photograph: SHUTTERSTOCK.COM
been so much build-up, from the highs in the world, from the happens to even the most in-love
bachelorette party to the bridal proposal to the planning to the newlyweds might help you figure out
shower to the constant phone calls party,” says US-based relationship how to enjoy the whole ‘Oh, we’re

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