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Building resilience Encourage yourself Know your strengths

Over time and with practice, teens can learn Don’t give yourself a hard time. Thinking about what you're
new behaviours and ways of thinking to help Instead, think positively and good at reminds you of what
them to keep going when things get tricky. praise yourself when you you have to offer.
achieve something, no
matter how small.

Ask for help
Seek out people in a similar Remember past challenges Learn from others
Try to remember another time
situation who may be able to Some of the greatest athletes,
support you. There is nothing inventors, and writers suffered
did, and how you felt afterwards. failures before achieving
wrong with asking for help. when you felt this way, what you many disappointments and
success. Take inspiration from
their persistence.

Behave proactively
Work towards a goal Taking active steps to change

Having a clear goal can give you a situation can give you a
something to work towards and sense of control. Try doing
Build a support network
work out the first time.
focus your attention. things differently if it didn’t
Friends and family can listen
and help with your concerns,
or provide a great distraction.

Think positively
Acknowledge your feelings
Reflect on and try to understand
TEEN HINTS Aim to be more optimistic, how you’re feeling. In doing so,
Try out a different perspective.
Adapting to change a little humour can help. steps you need to take to
it might become clear what
change things.
As a teen, it’s common to encounter new
situations where you may not feel entirely
comfortable. Part of being resilient is being
able to cope with the feelings caused by
such changes. It’s okay to notice yourself
being a bit anxious – anxiety helps you
recognize when something is valuable to Keep healthy Appreciate the good things
you. Try rehearsing the situation in advance Eating well and taking regular
or making a plan to help you feel more exercise can improve your Even the small things count, like
confident and prepared. mental health and strengthen listening to a favourite song or
reading a good book.
your ability to cope with a
difficult situation.

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