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my mind as to who to set them up with.” Whoever it is, people where they’re going wrong. After every date, both
Amy will not see a picture of them. “I have no tolerance parties give feedback, and that informs the next date – in
for online dating and how dismissive people can be; it’s terms of both who they’re matched with, and how they
disrespectful. You have to give people a chance.” behave. “Some people really appreciate being told what’s
wrong with them,” she says. “It’s quantitative analysis
STORMY WEATHER – eventually after five, six, seven dates, you see the same
Our next appointment is at a plastic surgeon’s office. It’s themes coming up.” If these things are damaging, then it’s
here that we meet Dr Ghoobi to see how he’s getting time to have a word. Similar bugbears come up again and
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on with his current match. He met his first wife through again, across the board – people drinking too much on
Molloy and, 10 years later, messy divorce behind him, he’s dates, inflated egos and something that’s enhanced in
turned to her again. He beams at us and says he’s weeks both online dating and a service like this: pickiness. “You
away from proposing. Just as he’s divulging his plans, we can’t breed the perfect human,” she says. “And often my
are ambushed by a surprise visitor: a friend and client of clients will think the more money they spend, the more
his, who’s recently divorced and wants to find love. Molloy they can lengthen their wish list… but even if we can
fires questions at her, but she soon mentions her ex, his present you with your ideal person on paper, we can’t
name uttered as if it’s wrapped in gold. Molloy plainly provide chemistry. It’s the one thing money can’t buy.”
says, “You’re still in love with him.” There’s some back and As for cash, I’m intrigued to know whether her clients
forth as the prospective client insists she isn’t. But Molloy demand their match earns a certain salary. “I don’t think
is unconvinced. This could be good or bad, she says after salaries come into play too much for the men, maybe
we leave – perhaps starting 3% will ask about it. For them,
something else will be what she it’s about the laughter, the love,
needs to get over him… or it will “IF YOU ACCEPT THAT the look and feeling of belonging.
help break her out of denial. But for women – and this may be
She’ll still take her on as a client EVERYONE HAS controversial…” she says. “I think
and see – after a few dates – what they like to feel secure. Not
happens. Then it might be time FLAWS, THEN YOU WILL necessarily financially – women
for a tough conversation. should be financially independent
Because that’s another huge – but they do like to feel looked
part of Molloy’s job – telling MEET SOMEONE” after, and money comes into that.”
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