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The expected forms for the honorific infinitives of kuru
‘comes,’ iku ‘goes,’ and iru ‘stays, exists,’ which are oki, oiki,
and oi, rarely occur. Instead, for the exalted form you use

either the special exalted infinitive oide (+ ni naru, etc.) or

the exalted verb irassharu.

Dochira kara oide ni narimashita ka.
Where did you come from?

Dochira e oide ni narimashita ka.
Where did you go?

Okāsama wa dochira ni oide ni narimasu ka.
Where is your mother?

9.18. Verbs for giving and receiving

The verbs ageru and kureru both mean ‘to give.’ The choice

between the two depends on how close the speaker feels to
the giver and the recipient. The verb kureru is used only

when the recipient is the speaker’s insider, and the recipient
is closer to the speaker than the giver. In all other contexts,

ageru is used. For example, in the following sentences, the
recipients are the speaker’s “insiders” (the speaker or the

speaker’s family members), the recipients are closer to the
speaker than the giver, and the verb kureru is used.

Jon-san ga watashi ni chokorēto o kuremashita.

John gave me chocolate.