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connecting to people. Often times we reflect on the real meaning of “connecting to people.”Is that of
vital importance in a human life? How can one tell if someone is actually connecting to others? and
what if one wishes to be connected with others?

Connecting increases one’s influence in every situation. The principal criteria for advancement and
recognition, as professionals, we need the ability of effective communication. It plays a vital role in
achieving success in all our association with family, friends, workplace, and in community. If we are
able to communicate; not just to communicate, but to ably connect with people, it literally gives a
decided edge over others in the advancement of what we are trying to accomplish. There are four
essential qualities that can be considered to stay well connected with people around us.

Real connection is more than just a talk or sharing of our interests. After all, we can talk to someone
for hours but that doesn’t stand as long as our communication is not really honest. The honesty in
speech comes from the depth of heart, as the heart knows things better that the mind cannot explain.
It doesn’t matter to whom we are talking to, but honesty pays its dividend in terms of respect.
R.W.Emerson observed, “To believe your own thought, to believe that what is true for you in your
private heart is true for all men – that is genius” For this reason, being sincere to our words brings
people closer to our inner circle.

The next critical aspect of our communication is genuineness. Charles Eisenstein once said, “We have
bigger houses but smaller families; more conveniences, but less time; we have more degrees, but less
sense; we have built more computers, but have less communications.”In the world of networks,
connecting to people with the sense of open mindedness makes us trustworthy and reliable. Being
genuine to conversations not only relies on speaking the heart-content, but also the actions
thereupon. It is the synchronization of words and deeds, and the harmony of heart and brain. That is
why many times the Americans hardly make out our interchangeable usage of “Okay” and “Yes” from
our conversations. We think that these words are synonymous, but one must understand the
difference between agreeing to a point and to committing to something.

Next comes the integrity of communication with individuals and groups. Swami Vivekananda, after his
visit to the West, once remarked that the Indians are great – as individuals, but as an organization they
are miserably underperformers. Our ambition has made us cynical and our cleverness has made us
crooked. Expanding our space enhances our real connection invariably among individuals and groups.
Integrity is something which is unbiased to exhibit our fairness of mind before and behind people. The
unaltered attitude builds up the greatest trust on one’s connection with others.

The final ingredient of healthy human connection is empathy. It is the goodwill that creates the magic
aura around us while connecting to others. In the world of technology, we need humanity more than
machines; we need kindness and gentleness more than our cleverness. Otherwise, the life will be lost
in the deluge of material augmentation. There is already a peevish call by an anonymous writer, “Your
cell phone has by now replaced your watch, camera, and calendar, don’t let it replace your family and
friends.”Hence emotional connection is also more sought after in good communication. If we really
wish someone well with our genuine concern, we give them the slim chance to judge us; thereby
become free from opinions.

A true communicator understands his/her fellow-beings better and well connects to the world by the
clear disposition of words, deeds, integrity, and love. Here comes the clear mark of distinction that
“communication is an art of connecting to people” rather than acquisition of “proficiency in
language.” In the world of differences, we are equals; and in the world of cultural and economical
distinctions, we are complementing one another; thanks to the pull of gravity that holds everyone
equally onto the bosom of mother earth. Now it’s time for us to rethink, whether to merely
communicate or get connected.

Duvaraganathan. Puvaraganathan. P
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Assistant Professor (SS) of Englishssistant Professor (SS) of English
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Assistant Professor (SS) of EnglishAssistant Professor (SS) of English
Department of Humanities and Sciencesepartment of Humanities and Sciences
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